Maturity

Maturity

Ann landers was a popular columnist who was read by millions all over the world. Almost every day  sacks of mail were delivered to her from people who came from different parts of the globe,no matter what their age , status or profession might be. Some of the letters dealt with serious problems, others with simpler ones, and each was answered in a straightforward,matter of fact way.whether the problem was large or small,Ann Landers gave it her undivided attention. She realized that each problem was of utmost importance to the letter writer and that a reply was needed. one thing that was common in most of these letters was that the writer had a problem with which he could not cope.and, in many cases,the inability to cope was the result of immaturity.

Reaching the age of eighteen – in many countries the official age for not regulated by the calendar. in other words ,what she was saying was that a number of us have never grown up,that countless individuals who may be financial  and professional giant are ,in many respects ,still emotional midgets. In her own words ,the fact that a man has replacedhis thumb with a cigar is no proof that he is grown.

Here are some of her definitions of maturity:

A.    maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violation or destruction.

B.     Maturity is patience ,the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of the long term gain.

C.     Maturity is perseverance ,sweating out of a project in spite of opposition and discouraging setbacks.

D.    Maturity  is unselfishness , responding to the needs of others.

E.     Maturity is the capability to face unpleasantness and disappointment without becoming bitter

F.      Maturity is humility . a mature person is able to say ,”I am  wrong .”he is also able to say ,”I am sorry”. And when he is proved right ,he does not have to say, “I told you so.”

G.    Maturity means dependability ,integrity,keeping one’s word. The immature have excuses for everything.they are chronically tardy,the no –shows,the gutless wonder who fold in a crises.their lives are a maze of broken promises,unfinished business and former friends.

Maturity is the ability to live in peace with that which we cannot chang